What To Do When You Can’t Afford Child Support Payments (2023)

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If you find yourself in a situation where you can’t pay child support, you definitely are not alone.

According to the Office of Child Support Enforcement’s 2020 Preliminary Report, which includes its most recent data, just over 10 million people under a court order to pay child support, are behind in their payments, with a cumulative total of over $115 billion owed.

Not all of those cases, nor the billions of dollars owed, are because of “deadbeat dads,” the popular name given those who have the resources to pay child support but choose to ignore court orders. .

Many child support problems are the result of parents falling behind because of circumstances beyond their control such as a lost job, medical emergency or just not enough income to handle the financial load every month.

In cases like these, it might seem logical to reach out to the co-parent and try to make an informal agreement to resolve the problem.. And it’s true that it’s a good idea to keep all concerned parties in the loop if your financial situation has changed.

But that can’t be the only step to take! Child support payments are court-ordered for a reason and any adjustments should be made only with the agreement of the courts.

Judges weigh income, age and earning capacity in determining how much child support to award. If there is a significant change in any of those categories, judges are the ones responsible for re-setting monthly payments.

What to Do If You Can’t Pay Child Support

The first, and perhaps most important, thing to do is to get a handle on the consequences for not paying child support, and how strict the courts can be with people who don’t pay child support. Know, in other words, what can happen to you.

The Child Support Enforcement Act of 1984, as well as individual state laws, authorize the courts to collect back payments and levy a number of serious penalties (we’ll list them a little later) for the parent who isn’t keeping up.

It should motivate you to take whatever steps you can to address the situation.

And here’s something to remember: Filing for bankruptcy won’t help you. Back child support can’t be forgiven in bankruptcy.

But there are options for some relief when you are struggling financially or in arrears – the word used when you’ve fallen behind with the payments – and need help paying child support. (If you come across the word “arrearages,” it means the child support that is owed.)

It’s unlikely that any of the available options can clear child support debt completely, even when your financial situation has changed and your money troubles are at their worst. But at times like that, it’s worth doing what you can to try to make things easier.

This may seem overwhelming, but there are ways to get help. Consider asking a pro-bono Legal Advocacy Group for assistance. Contact your local United Way or other charity groups or search online for pro-bono legal services.

Each municipality typically has a Legal Aid Society center as well to offer free legal advice to residents, and many of the courts have a Legal Resource center that can provide the petition forms you need for the actual filing. While they can’t offer you legal advice, they can help you get the forms you need. Many forms are available online as well. This isn’t something that can wait.

Alternately, you can contact Child Support Enforcement in the state where your child support is owed. They can help walk you through the process and may be able to put you in touch with the legal resources you need.

Whatever course you take, the chances that you can find a way to reduce the amounts you have to pay will improve if you make an honest and genuine effort to keep the court that ordered the child support in the first place informed about your trouble with the payments. Do it sooner rather than later.

Let the Court Know

It’s vital that you notify the court that oversees your case about the difficulties in your financial situation, as soon as possible. That’s true even if you’ve made an agreement with the child’s other parent to reduce the amount you’re paying in child support.

Since only a judge can legalize a modification to the original child support order, that agreement won’t help you if the court hasn’t approved it and the other parent makes an issue of your delinquency.

When you let the court know about your financial trouble before you’ve ended up in arrears (missed a payment), your case is more likely to be heard by understanding ears. Explaining that you’ve lost your job or that you need to pay unexpected medical bills should affect the court’s willingness to set up a modified arrangement for child support if it can be structured so that the child and the other parent still get the money they need.

In any event, it’s important to let the court know about any negative changes in your financial circumstances as soon as you realize you might have trouble making payments. Without that reach-out, the court is likely to assume you are refusing to pay child support. That won’t play well.

Request a Payment Schedule

If you’re sincere about improving your situation, it’s a good idea to let everyone involved in your case know you want to keep up with your child support. Perhaps the best way to do that is to request a more manageable payment schedule that lowers the amount you owe in your regular payments. That way, your child will continue to receive at least some money.

If you and the other parent can’t mutually agree on lowering your monthly obligation, a sympathetic court might help you do that. Remember: The new payment schedule won’t be legal and binding until the court approves it.

The process varies from state to state, but you’ll have to show that your financial situation has changed for the worse since the original amount of your child support payments was put in place. That likely means you’ll need to provide documents such as W-2s, medical insurance forms or unemployment records. If the parents don’t agree on the amount requested, they’ll make their cases in front of a judge before a decision is made.

If you are already in arrears, the local child support agency can help you figure out how much child support you currently owe and advise you about requesting a modified payment schedule.

Private Loans

One way to keep making your child support payments and avoid the consequences of missing them is to take out a private loan. If you’re already in arrears, those extra funds can be used to get caught up and to make it easier to meet future payments as you work through your financial situation.

A loan might be available to you from a bank, a credit union, online lenders or friends or relatives. In many cases, it won’t require collateral, especially if you can convince the lender that you can and will repay the debt.

Of course, that’s the rub. You’ll have to pay back the private loan, probably in monthly installments (plus interest) just like your child support obligation. In effect you’ll be substituting one expense for another – robbing Peter to pay Paul.

For that reason, a private loan should be a last resort, something to turn to if no other attempt to address your difficulty with child support payments has worked.

Settle with the Guardian

You’ll have to let your co-parent (or the child’s legal guardian) know what’s going on in at least some detail because it’s going to affect his or herbudgetas well. The court-ordered child support your co-parent receives, goes to the care of your child. It’s important that a change in the amount you’ve been providing be managed so that your child’s needs continue to be met.

While your co-parent cannot legally waive or release you from the court-ordered child support obligation (only a judge can change the order), you might be able to work out an arrangement if you need short-term leniency.

If the issue is a larger financial hardship than making your payments for just the next few months, it will become a matter of urgency to obtain a legal modification to your court-ordered child support. Giving your co-parent a heads up is to your advantage. It might prevent the co-parent from starting legal action against you, and, since both of you will need to provide financial documentation during the review for modification process, it should speed things up.

In any event, you need to show a good-faith effort to both your co-parent and a judge to pay as much for the care of your child as you can, even if it’s less than the ordered amount. It can prevent larger legal trouble, and it can limit the amount you fall in arrears (and still be responsible for paying). All of this will help you in the long term.

Unemployment Benefits

If your inability to keep up with child support is due in part to the loss of a job and you haven’t found another one, filing for unemployment benefits in your state might help you start to catch up. The state will automatically deduct as much as 50% of your unemployment checks and apply it to your child support costs.

The percentage deducted varies from state to state, so it’s worth checking into how much of your monthly child support obligation can be covered though unemployment. It certainly can be a helpful way to manage your money troubles while still providing some funds for the care of your child.

But don’t expect your childcare payments to increase the amount of your unemployment benefits. Child support payments are expenses, while unemployment benefits are determined by what your previous income was.

Debt Relief Programs

For people in need, most states offer plans through agencies or grants that can reduce the financial strain of their child support and provide an opportunity to at least partially pay off child support debt accumulated when missed payments pile up.

For example, California’s Compromise of Arrears Program (COAP) helps people who are in arrears by allowing them to make a partial payment toward their debt and have the rest of debt they owe the government eliminated. The plan works by reducing the amount that can be paid in a lump sum or in monthly payments over three years. There is no charge for the service.

Illinois offers the Clean Slate Program, which removes the debt owed to the state once the paying parent makes six consecutive regular child support payments and agrees to continue making future payments.

In both of those cases, the debt that is eliminated is the portion of support the child has been receiving through public assistance. It’s part of the monthly child support obligation, but technically, it’s money owed to the state rather than to the co-parent.

All of these programs require the parent paying child support to meet qualification standards. Illinois asks for proof that the applicant is unemployed, was in prison or had a serious illness that prevented them from making payments, along with financial documents. California requires accurate information about all income and assets, and the program is only available to people who owe the government $5,000 or more in past-due child support.

Obviously, to get this kind of help, it’s important to be able to prove (and communicate) your financial difficulties to the agency offering it. So get prepared.

The Office of Child Support Enforcement website lists the agency in each state that has debt compromise policies available.

What Are the Consequences of Not Paying Child Support?

Child support is a legal obligation and an order of the court. When you fail to meet legal obligations or find yourself in contempt of a court order, the consequences are predictably unpleasant.

  • You could lose your driver’s license. All 50 states have legislation that will result in the suspension of your driver’s license. Some states even extend the suspension to professional and occupational licensing as well as hunting and fishing licensing.
  • Your pay can be garnished.A court can order your earnings to be withheld by your employer and used as payment for your child support debt. Thegarnishment will either be the entire court-ordered amount or up to 65% of what is determined to be your disposable income amount (whichever is less).
  • Your tax return can be seized. This is usually done in conjunction with pay garnishment.
  • Your application for a passport can be denied.
  • Property Liens. This means that if you intend to sell land, homes, or vehicles, liens (claims or legal rights against assets typically used as collateral to satisfy a debt) against them will have to be paid before closing for the title to be cleared and the sale to be final.
  • Your credit can take a dive.Child support enforcement agencies are free to provide information to credit bureaus about any parent with a legitimate child support obligation. That means yourcredit score is in for a dive.
  • Jail time.Every court has an option for incarcerating those found in “contempt of court.” Child support is a court order, and sometimes a judge may order the defendant, or obligor in the case of child support, to be jailed for willful nonpayment.
  • Felony Charges. If you fall more than $10,000 behind, it could mean a felony if you haven’t made attempts to pay. At that point, the state may decide to file felony charges and offenders could face fines and sentencing of up to two years in prison

There is a shame element, too, that some states employ by identifying ‘deadbeat’ parents who aren’t paying their child support obligations. Their photos, names and delinquent amounts are posted online for all to see.

How to Stop Paying Child Support Legally

There is a legal process for stopping child support payments, but it isn’t easy. Courts operate under the theory that a child’s best interest is served when they receive predictable financial payments. Convincing a judge otherwise requires documented evidence that your economic situation has changed, along with a good argument that you need some help, even if it’s just temporary.

You or your lawyer will have to go to the courthouse and file the necessary paperwork seeking a modification. This usually is a simple fill-in-the-blanks sheet. If you’re doing this yourself, you might be able to ask if the court has staff members who can assist with the filing process. However, because family law is tricky, it usually is in your best interest to have a lawyer representing you. If you can’t afford one, visit the local Legal Aid Society and ask for help.

Once your case is filed and you have a court date set to hear your petition for modifying child support payments, you must notify your co-parent of those specifics. At the hearing, you will present your case for stopping child support payments, or at least modifying them to an affordable level.

When you go to court to ask for relief, be sure to have documented evidence that demonstrates why you are unable to afford your monthly obligation. That should include termination papers if you lost a job; paycheck stubs if your pay has been cut; medical receipts if your health has changed; proof of increased expenses because of other bills you owe; and anything else you can put your hands on to show you are in trouble, not running from trouble.

You should be aware that a 2016 update to the Child Support Enforcement Offices regulations requires that there be a “substantial change in circumstances” to modify child support.

However, during the last year or so, courts have been more lenient in granting temporary child support relief to people who can demonstrate they’ve lost their jobs or part of their income because of the COVID-19 pandemic. Even pre-pandemic, some states allowed adjustments to what you owe in child support based on your current income if the amount of the original payments was calculated when you had a higher salary.

Still, any attempt to ignore your obligation to pay is viewed unfavorably by courts. It could result in the custodian parent filing a contempt action that would be extremely costly. You would be liable for more court costs and lawyer’s fees to re-settle your case.

The good news is that there are programs to help pay child support and get yourself back on track. There’s one thing you can do that will surely not help, however, and that is to do nothing.

So, what can you do?

Financial Assistance & Programs to Help Fathers Pay Child Support

Studies show that fathers recognize their obligations to financially support their children. But two circumstances – lack of stable employment and incarceration – often make it difficult for them to fulfill that obligation.

Fathers make up 80% of the 12.6 million noncustodial parents in the U.S., according to the U.S. Census Bureau study released in May 2020. A 2016 study for the Department of Health and Human Services showed that almost three-fourths of fathers with child support payments under the national median of $364 per month, wereunemployedor in part-time or temporary jobs.

Another 400,000 are in jail and have child support cases ahead of them, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures.

So, creating job opportunities and training fathers how to advance in the workplace became a focus for government-sponsored programs run by the Office of Child Support Enforcement. The federal government funds 91 such programs in 30 states plus the District of Columbia. Not all the programs are statewide.

Some of the larger funded programs include the Office of Head Start; the Father Engagement Birth To Five; and the Strong Families Initiative.

The Father Engagement Birth To Five program was born out of the Head Start program. It attempts to get (and keep) fathers engaged in their child’s development at an early age.

The Strong Families Initiative in the Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) seeks similar results, but focuses on families in public housing and multi-family housing projects. Built around health, education and economic empowerment, family-friendly events are staged in those neighborhoods to promote economic opportunity and self-sufficiency for residents.

These programs help connect low-income, noncustodial parents to new career paths with increased wages and, thus, the ability to provide more support for their children. Getting noncustodial parents connected with jobs is a key to regular support payments.

What to Do When You’re Already Behind on Child Support

Contact the Office of Child Support Enforcement in your state to let them know you’re working on a getting a hearing review of your current child support amount, and that you’re actively working on resolving the issue.

Once you have a new child support amount, contact them again and discuss a payment plan and options to help you deal with your back child support. Some states will offer to waive the interest on back child support or will negotiate adebt settlementafter a year of consistent payment of your current court-ordered child support. If you’re proactive, there are options available to lessen the burden and help you pay down the debt. Ultimately, that’s the outcome they’d like to see, just like any other creditor.

Most people behind on child support are behind in relatively small amounts. Only 20% of those in arrears owe more than $20,000, but that group represents nearly 65% of the unpaid child support obligation. Data suggests that this usually happens when the parent is incarcerated, because the obligation to pay child support doesn’t stop even when the ability to earn an income does. That’s an issue that’s been at the center of attempted reform for years.

It does take time and patience, just like dealing with any other debt, but it can be done.

Find Another Source of Income

Two things anyone can do to help themselves out of financial stress is to find a second source of income and/orreduce spendingin every category in their budget.

The list of opportunities for a second job is enlist. You can be a waiter, delivery person, a tutor, a coach, or a freelancer in many fields. Start a bank account where any money made on the side goes and use that to make child support payments.

The added benefit of a second job is that you have less time to spend money on things like dining out; paying for entertainment or clothes shopping. Try a few more expense-cutting steps like getting a roommate to share rent/utilities/food expenses; using public transportation or walking instead of using a car.

These might feel like drastic steps, but there aren’t nearly as penalizing as defaulting on child support payments.


What To Do When You Can’t Afford Child Support Payments? ›

It's vital that you notify the court that oversees your case about the difficulties in your financial situation, as soon as possible. That's true even if you've made an agreement with the child's other parent to reduce the amount you're paying in child support.

How far behind in child support before a warrant is issued in Illinois? ›

Criminal Prosecution — If a non-custodial parent refuses to pay court-ordered child support for more than a six-month period or owes more than $5,000, the federal government can prosecute.

How much do you have to owe in child support to go to jail in Indiana? ›

It is a Class C Felony if the amount of unpaid support due and owing for one or more children is at least $15,000. A Class D Felony is punishable by 1/2 to 3 years imprisonment and/or a fine of $10,000.

What happens if you can t afford to pay child support in Texas? ›

You could have a lien put on your property, bank account, or retirement plans for failing to pay child support. If you don't pay child support, the Texas Attorney General's Office can file a lien on your property, bank account, retirement plan or just about any other asset.

Can child support arrears be forgiven in Maryland? ›

Arrears owed to the State can be reduced if a parent pays as ordered. If the parent pays as ordered for 12 consecutive months, arrears owed to the State are reduced by 50%. If the parent pays as ordered for 24 consecutive months, the arrears owed to the State are reduced to zero.

What happens if I lose my job and can t pay child support in Illinois? ›

Child support payments do not stop or change right after you lose your job. The court has to approve a new child support order. Either parent can request the court to modify your child support order only if you are undergoing a major change in circumstances, such as a significant increase or increase in income.

Is it a felony to not pay child support in Illinois? ›

How much back child support is a felony in Illinois? To get a felony for not paying child support in Illinois, there needs to be more than $10,000 owed. It is a final punishment after previous methods have not worked. It can also happen for other reasons like if a person leaves the state to avoid paying child support.

Can you pay off child support in a lump sum in Texas? ›

90% of the time the court will only order periodic payments. The Texas Family Code specifically provides that the Court may order that child support be paid by: Periodic payments. A lump-sum payment.

Can child support freeze your bank account in Texas? ›

With a levy, the state can freeze your account and legally take money from your bank account to pay off the outstanding child support debt.

Can I give up my rights as a father and not pay child support in Texas? ›

Generally, a termination of parental rights in Texas is also a termination of any obligation to support the child in the future. However, if an arrearage for child support exists at the time of the termination, a Court has the ability to order it paid either in lump sum or over time.

How long can you go without paying child support in Maryland? ›

If you are 60 days or more behind on your child support obligation, the Child Support Enforcement Administration is supposed to notify the Motor Vehicle Administration (MVA), which will then suspend your driver's license.

What happens if child support is not paid in Maryland? ›

Penalties for Failure to Pay Child Support in Maryland

Failing to pay child support in Maryland is a serious offense that can lead to numerous consequences, such as fines, driver's license suspension, and criminal charges.

How can I get out of paying child support in Maryland? ›

If you wish to terminate child support, you must file a court form that states the reason why the support is no longer necessary. These reasons can include the child's age, marital status, or even his ability to self-support without additional financial assistance.

What is the deadbeat dad law in Illinois? ›

The Family Financial Responsibility Act in Illinois allows the Circuit Court to request that the Secretary of State suspend a delinquent parent's license if he is more than 90 days in arrears. The parent has a right to a hearing within the next 60 days after being informed of the suspension.

What is contempt of court for child support in Illinois? ›

What Does Being Held In Contempt Of Court Mean? Illinois courts hold that failure to make child support payments required by court orders is evidence of contempt of court. When contempt of court is filed against you, you must attend a hearing to show cause.

What is the statute of limitations for back child support in Illinois? ›

In Illinois, there is no longer a statute of limitations on back child support payments. Prior to July 1, 1997, Illinois law imposed a 20-year statute of limitations on collection of past-due child support. In 2000, Illinois law imposed statutory interest on past due installments of child support.

How does Illinois enforce child support? ›

The proper method for enforcing a child support order is to institute a contempt proceeding against the obligor. This is done by filing a motion for post-decree enforcement of the child support order. For a more detailed explanation of contempt proceedings, check out our article: Illinois Contempt of Court Explained.

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